Online Dating – Does It Work?

What is Love?

What do we consider love? One popular dictionary site states that love is: “The most spectacular,indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone.” So love is spectacular and indescribable. Love sets our hearts on fire, it makes our blood boil and turns us into different creatures. Love, sex and romance have fueled our culture and history, they have built up and torn down empires, and they are what every person wants to find.

Where is the Love?

How do you find it? In the past you looked to your friends, you scanned the church and searched the clubs, maybe it even would even sneak up on you at work. In the deeper past you married who your parents decided and hoped love would spark. Today, as before, we use the tools at our disposal. They just happen to be different tools. Today we use the internet.

Not more than a few years ago, no self respecting person would admit that they were dating online. It was seen as a last resort, a tool for the desperate. What a difference a few years makes! Scientists at the University of Rochester recently reported a study where they found that online dating is now the second most common way to begin a relationship. Today tens of millions of people use online dating sites and these sites have proliferated. PlentyOfFish.com, Match.com, eHarmony.com, OKCupid.com and these are just a very few of the most popular not even counting the niche dating sites. What was frowned upon has become commonplace and why wouldn’t it. A CNN article recently summed it up like this:

If you’re young, urban and didn’t import a significant other from college, it’s pretty likely that you’re on an online dating site.

The pool of possibilities widens immensely. No longer do you need to settle for people you would meet at work, a party, church, or a local bar. Many of these dating sites even promise, through proprietary computer matching, that they can indeed pick out your perfect mate.

Where do We Find Love

Can they truly pick a perfect match? That is still a rather controversial assertion, but what they will do is introduce you to many more people than you would have met otherwise. And it all depends on what you are looking for and it depends how hard you want to look. Everyone knows someone who met their spouse online, as well as met people who have horror stories about online dating. Are the statistic for online dating any better than traditional dating? A study recently out published in the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest states that it is no more effective than traditional dating for finding a happy relationship. The study states:

Regarding matching, no compelling evidence supports matching sites’ claims that mathematical algorithms work-that they foster romantic outcomes that are superior to those fostered by other means of pairing partners.

This may be true, but we use the tools at our disposal. So cupid is still rather stingy with his arrows high tech or otherwise. If it were that easy, it wouldn’t be love!